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Mindfulness

"So teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom." Psalm 90:2

"Be Mindful! Be Present! Do Something Here That Has Eternal Value!"

These are my goals for 2019! What type of goals, resolutions-solutions do you have for this year? I would love to connect with some more people and work with you! I would especially like to connect with other "empty-nesters" who are also struggling with "purpose" and "direction" in our lives. What do we DO now that we are "grown-ups"?? Send me an email and let me know how we can be an encouragement and blessing to each other! Blessings! 

See Tai Chi page for new content and recent study published on the Effectiveness of Tai chi in fall prevention! 

Tai Chi Classes

Do you know what is the total cost for treatment of "falls" per year? $50,000,000,000.00/year! (https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-03-older-adult-falls-substantial-medical.html)

That is 50 billion in  hospital costs, doctor's bills, therapy, rehab, etc. all related to injury as a result of a fall. Also did you know that for a person 65 years old and older, 20% of people with a hip fracture, die within a year? There is no way to measure the costs as older adults lose their independence, experience a significant disability, and therefore withdraw from society. 

Did you know that practicing Tai chi on a regular basis can help you improve your balance and therefore reduces your risk of suffering an injury due to a fall? The results of a study by Li and colleagues (2004) demonstrates the effectiveness in practicing Tai chi in fall prevention for older adults.

"The Tai Chi group preformed significantly better than the stretching group on the three functional balance assessments (dynamic gait index, the Berg balance scale, and a functional reach test). There was no change in the baseline measurements for the stretching in any of the functional balance assessments. In the 6-month follow-up, where no formalize exercise was offered, the Tai Chi group showed much slower deterioration in functional balance measures as compared to the stretching group. In addition, during the 6-month post-exercise period, there were 28 recorded falls in the Tai Chi Group and 74 reported with the stretching group."

​Interested in learning how to practice Tai chi? There are opportunities for learning the Yang 24 Form at Hidden Lake Gardens, in Tecumseh, Michigan or at Dance Center in Adrian, Michigan. Contact me for more information!  

Walking

Walking is a great way to start if you're new to exercise or need to keep your activity low-impact. It doesn't require special equipment or a gym membership, and the list of benefits is long: In addition to building strong muscles (or keeping your muscle mass from shrinking) and increasing your bone density, it may help reduce your risk of developing type 2 diabetes, improve your total cholesterol level, lower your blood pressure and help you loose weight (especially around your mid-section). To get the most from your walks, keep your pace brisk and aim for 30 minutes about five days per week. Or track the number of steps you take each day. Buy a pedometer to find out how many steps you average in a day. Thirty minutes of brisk walking should result in about 10,000 steps, which, according to Shape Up America! Should be our daily goal for successful weight management [source: Navratilova, Shape Up America!]]

Completion

I chose the word "completion" to be my mantra, my focus for 2018. As a perfectionist I tend to start 10 projects at once, get side tracked along the way, and never get back to finishing any of them. I also chose a Scripture verse to help me stay on track with my goals, Romans 12:11, "Not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord." I will  be using a timer in 30 minute intervals, for my decluttering and completion projects to help me stay focused. I figure that is a realistic time in which I should be able to handle cleaning out/decluttering 1 thing/drawer/shelf/box/etc. at a time. No need to overwhelm myself and quit that project again!

The following is my schedule for each day in order of priority.

  1. Bible study, devotional reading, prayer
  2. Physical exercise including daily yoga and Tai Chi practices, plus one other activity, dancing, walking, etc
  3. Follow daily cleaning schedule
  4. Decluttering
  5. Project completion

Of course this is just the bare bones, since I didn't list all of my daily chores, feeding the dogs, meal prep, etc. I really don't want to bore you with the details! Remember the quote about social media and knowing everyone's status/business?! 

So now that we have chatted this week about goals ​and given you a little insight into who I am and what I will be doing this year, please feel free to leave a comment and share your goals and plans. I would love to hear from you. Accountability is often helpful in accomplishing what we start. Knowing that we wrote it down, posted our list where we are reminded every day of our priorities, and then letting others know our progress keeps us motivated. Let's be diligent this year to be an encouragement to each other to become the best version of who God created us to become. Challenge ourselves to be stretched, face our fears, and live with no regrets! 

Have a blessed weekend! 

 

 

 

 

Fantasy vs. Real Life

So now that you are motivated to start setting some goals for your life, you look around and see everyone else's "perfect" life, and you quit before you even get started taking action! I understand how you feel! Remember yesterday that I admitted I am a perfectionist? Well sometimes the problem with being a perfectionist and trying to set some goals is that I procrastinate! Then when I start comparing, I begin despairing! Do you know what social media is? "It is where everyone knows your status, but it is none of their business!" That is not an original idea! I heard that in a Hallmark movie! LOL

Let's shift our thought processes. Let's build slowly so that we can gain some momentum. Let's remember that our thoughts define who we are and who we become. "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." (Proverbs 23:7) Let's personalize what we want our lives to be and stop comparing to others. For example, the woman I mentioned in a previous blog, who was doing a webinar on minimalism, showed some pictures of her house. Sure there was no clutter, nothing on the counters, bare walls, but that is not what I want my house to look like when I am done decluttering. We have to define who we are as a person first, then decide where we want to go, who we want to be, and then figure out the steps we need to get us there.

For me, I need to build some more routines into my daily schedule. I have a cleaning schedule, and I would like to stick to it this year! I also will be continuing to declutter my home. No, not like the minimalistic lady, but at the very least I would like to get rid of the "stuff" that has accumulated over the past 5-10 years since all of our children have moved out! I remember that I do not want to portray a "fantasy" life, but I want to embrace the lifestyle that fits me.

Let me know what you think and what some of your goals are for 2018. Tomorrow I will share a few of mine! 

 

 

The Big 5

So where do we start with goals setting? Which areas of my life need the most help and improvement? As I shared yesterday, I am so overwhelmed at times, that I just don't know where or even how to start. Baby steps! Remember? Okay, so let's focus on the "Big 5" i.e. Faith, Family/relationships, Health, Career/calling, and Finances. I was trying to start each word with the letter "F", but I am not that cleaver! I think we can safely say that these five categories comprise most of our lives.

What if we start out by setting just one or two goals for each of these areas? Doing the math that would be 5-10 goals for the year. Remember, we are trying to not be overwhelmed, so we don't want to set the bar too high. Also try to categorize each goal in terms of being SMART, specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. For example under the category "Health", for me to write down "I am going to run in the New York City marathon this August" would be stretching my realistic and achievable criteria. It is certainly a specific, measurable, and time-bound goal, but just not something I plan on doing this year! 

Think about formulating "compelling" goals. This would be the "WHY" behind the goal. Does completing X goal really matter in my life? In the life of others within my circle of responsibility/influence?  Will achieving it make a difference in my happiness, peace of mind, calmness of spirit? For example, is the goal intellectually stimulating or physically challenging? Is it worth even writing it down? Think about stretching outside of what your are comfortable with, or what your "normal" is like.

Make sure to write your goals down and then assign a deadline. This will create a sense of urgency and help you balance your priorities. Turn negatives into positives. Instead of saying something like, "I won't eat any junk food this year", rephrase it by saying, "I choose to eat 1 serving of fruit or vegetables at each meal." By focusing on what you "get" to eat, rather than deprivation, we build healthy habits without much thought or effort.

Tomorrow, we will continue this discussion, and we will be specifically thinking about how to personalize our goals.

Have a sunny day!  

 

 

Goal setting

The start of a new year, month, week, and even day is a time to pause and reflect, then set some intentions and goals for the future. "Don't look back, you're not going that way" is a good idea, and also "...but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal..." (Philippians 3:13-14) I was surprised, in looking back at some goals that I had written down for last week, how little I had accomplished, nor had I checked much off my to-do-list. I had  become distracted and side-tracked. What in the world is my problem?

In listening to a "minimalistic lifestyle" webinar today, I was able to get the answer that question. I am a perfectionist! I am overwhelmed with clutter, life, distractions, etc. and I have no idea where to start, so I leave every project I start unfinished. I am more frustrated than ever because I feel that if I do not accomplish "X, Y, and Z", I have failed, and if I don't accomplish all of them perfectly, I have just fulfilled my "I am a failure" self-prophecy! 

So now that I know what my problem is, how do I "reach forward' and "press toward the goal"? WHAT steps do I need to take to accomplish some goals, and what mindset do I need to adjust? HOW do I maximize my time towards a decluttered home, that is a better reflection of WHO I am? WHERE do I start? WHEN will I know that I am "done"? 

These are scary questions, but I am hoping that by taking some baby steps forward, one at a time, I will be able to accomplish big things in 2018! Remember that "small hinges swing big doors"!

For the next four days, I will be sharing with you all some practical tips on goal setting and decluttering. Stay tuned, leave me comments regarding your goals for this year, and feel free to share this with your friends!

Have a blessed day!

New Year 2018

Today I changed the name of my Facebook page, Hickory Hill Haven to Be In Health in order to better reflect my direction in a coaching practice! It has been almost 1 year since I became a certified health coach.  I  actually received my certification on my 59th birthday, however spending time with and caring for my Mom, who was in later stages of Parkinson's disease,  took priority over coaching. Mom made her heavenly homeward journey on Oct. 25, and I have since been taking some time off to grieve, practice self care, and get refocused.

At the start of a new year it is a good practice to reflect on the past, make some decisions, and come up with a plan to move forward in the days ahead. Many people make "resolutions", but often don't stick with their plans, usually because they didn't make SMART goals, i.e. "specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound".This is where having a health coach comes in handy, someone who can help you clarify the direction in which you would like to go, offer suggestions, and then keep you accountable.

I  chose the name Be In Health from the Bible verse 3 John 2, "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers." This new name describes my desire to help others as a "Body/Mind/Spirit Advocate". Each of our lives are shaped by our personal life experiences, and as we navigate through life, having mentors who understand our difficulties, hurts, and problems is reassuring, when we feel uncertain, alone, and afraid. 

I am also in the process of becoming a certified Tai Chi instructor, teaching adult dance fitness classes, and continuing to study various aspects of coaching the "Big 5", faith, family/relationships, health, career/calling, finances. Remember, how you do one is how you do the others!

​The choices we make, the opportunities we take,... I heard yesterday that "fear is temporary, but regrets are forever." What are you waiting for? Why not make 2018 one of the healthiest, happiest years of your life? You cannot change what happens TO you, but you can change YOUR ATTI-TUDE! 

​Blessings!

Tai Chi

Mindfulness

"So teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom." Psalm 90:2

"Be Mindful! Be Present! Do Something Here That Has Eternal Value!"

These are my goals for 2019! What type of goals, resolutions-solutions do you have for this year? I would love to connect with some more people and work with you! I would especially like to connect with other "empty-nesters" who are also struggling with "purpose" and "direction" in our lives. What do we DO now that we are "grown-ups"?? Send me an email and let me know how we can be an encouragement and blessing to each other! Blessings! 

See Tai Chi page for new content and recent study published on the Effectiveness of Tai chi in fall prevention! 

Tai Chi Classes

Do you know what is the total cost for treatment of "falls" per year? $50,000,000,000.00/year! (https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-03-older-adult-falls-substantial-medical.html)

That is 50 billion in  hospital costs, doctor's bills, therapy, rehab, etc. all related to injury as a result of a fall. Also did you know that for a person 65 years old and older, 20% of people with a hip fracture, die within a year? There is no way to measure the costs as older adults lose their independence, experience a significant disability, and therefore withdraw from society. 

Did you know that practicing Tai chi on a regular basis can help you improve your balance and therefore reduces your risk of suffering an injury due to a fall? The results of a study by Li and colleagues (2004) demonstrates the effectiveness in practicing Tai chi in fall prevention for older adults.

"The Tai Chi group preformed significantly better than the stretching group on the three functional balance assessments (dynamic gait index, the Berg balance scale, and a functional reach test). There was no change in the baseline measurements for the stretching in any of the functional balance assessments. In the 6-month follow-up, where no formalize exercise was offered, the Tai Chi group showed much slower deterioration in functional balance measures as compared to the stretching group. In addition, during the 6-month post-exercise period, there were 28 recorded falls in the Tai Chi Group and 74 reported with the stretching group."

​Interested in learning how to practice Tai chi? There are opportunities for learning the Yang 24 Form at Hidden Lake Gardens, in Tecumseh, Michigan or at Dance Center in Adrian, Michigan. Contact me for more information!  

Walking

Walking is a great way to start if you're new to exercise or need to keep your activity low-impact. It doesn't require special equipment or a gym membership, and the list of benefits is long: In addition to building strong muscles (or keeping your muscle mass from shrinking) and increasing your bone density, it may help reduce your risk of developing type 2 diabetes, improve your total cholesterol level, lower your blood pressure and help you loose weight (especially around your mid-section). To get the most from your walks, keep your pace brisk and aim for 30 minutes about five days per week. Or track the number of steps you take each day. Buy a pedometer to find out how many steps you average in a day. Thirty minutes of brisk walking should result in about 10,000 steps, which, according to Shape Up America! Should be our daily goal for successful weight management [source: Navratilova, Shape Up America!]]

Completion

I chose the word "completion" to be my mantra, my focus for 2018. As a perfectionist I tend to start 10 projects at once, get side tracked along the way, and never get back to finishing any of them. I also chose a Scripture verse to help me stay on track with my goals, Romans 12:11, "Not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord." I will  be using a timer in 30 minute intervals, for my decluttering and completion projects to help me stay focused. I figure that is a realistic time in which I should be able to handle cleaning out/decluttering 1 thing/drawer/shelf/box/etc. at a time. No need to overwhelm myself and quit that project again!

The following is my schedule for each day in order of priority.

  1. Bible study, devotional reading, prayer
  2. Physical exercise including daily yoga and Tai Chi practices, plus one other activity, dancing, walking, etc
  3. Follow daily cleaning schedule
  4. Decluttering
  5. Project completion

Of course this is just the bare bones, since I didn't list all of my daily chores, feeding the dogs, meal prep, etc. I really don't want to bore you with the details! Remember the quote about social media and knowing everyone's status/business?! 

So now that we have chatted this week about goals ​and given you a little insight into who I am and what I will be doing this year, please feel free to leave a comment and share your goals and plans. I would love to hear from you. Accountability is often helpful in accomplishing what we start. Knowing that we wrote it down, posted our list where we are reminded every day of our priorities, and then letting others know our progress keeps us motivated. Let's be diligent this year to be an encouragement to each other to become the best version of who God created us to become. Challenge ourselves to be stretched, face our fears, and live with no regrets! 

Have a blessed weekend! 

 

 

 

 

Fantasy vs. Real Life

So now that you are motivated to start setting some goals for your life, you look around and see everyone else's "perfect" life, and you quit before you even get started taking action! I understand how you feel! Remember yesterday that I admitted I am a perfectionist? Well sometimes the problem with being a perfectionist and trying to set some goals is that I procrastinate! Then when I start comparing, I begin despairing! Do you know what social media is? "It is where everyone knows your status, but it is none of their business!" That is not an original idea! I heard that in a Hallmark movie! LOL

Let's shift our thought processes. Let's build slowly so that we can gain some momentum. Let's remember that our thoughts define who we are and who we become. "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." (Proverbs 23:7) Let's personalize what we want our lives to be and stop comparing to others. For example, the woman I mentioned in a previous blog, who was doing a webinar on minimalism, showed some pictures of her house. Sure there was no clutter, nothing on the counters, bare walls, but that is not what I want my house to look like when I am done decluttering. We have to define who we are as a person first, then decide where we want to go, who we want to be, and then figure out the steps we need to get us there.

For me, I need to build some more routines into my daily schedule. I have a cleaning schedule, and I would like to stick to it this year! I also will be continuing to declutter my home. No, not like the minimalistic lady, but at the very least I would like to get rid of the "stuff" that has accumulated over the past 5-10 years since all of our children have moved out! I remember that I do not want to portray a "fantasy" life, but I want to embrace the lifestyle that fits me.

Let me know what you think and what some of your goals are for 2018. Tomorrow I will share a few of mine! 

 

 

The Big 5

So where do we start with goals setting? Which areas of my life need the most help and improvement? As I shared yesterday, I am so overwhelmed at times, that I just don't know where or even how to start. Baby steps! Remember? Okay, so let's focus on the "Big 5" i.e. Faith, Family/relationships, Health, Career/calling, and Finances. I was trying to start each word with the letter "F", but I am not that cleaver! I think we can safely say that these five categories comprise most of our lives.

What if we start out by setting just one or two goals for each of these areas? Doing the math that would be 5-10 goals for the year. Remember, we are trying to not be overwhelmed, so we don't want to set the bar too high. Also try to categorize each goal in terms of being SMART, specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. For example under the category "Health", for me to write down "I am going to run in the New York City marathon this August" would be stretching my realistic and achievable criteria. It is certainly a specific, measurable, and time-bound goal, but just not something I plan on doing this year! 

Think about formulating "compelling" goals. This would be the "WHY" behind the goal. Does completing X goal really matter in my life? In the life of others within my circle of responsibility/influence?  Will achieving it make a difference in my happiness, peace of mind, calmness of spirit? For example, is the goal intellectually stimulating or physically challenging? Is it worth even writing it down? Think about stretching outside of what your are comfortable with, or what your "normal" is like.

Make sure to write your goals down and then assign a deadline. This will create a sense of urgency and help you balance your priorities. Turn negatives into positives. Instead of saying something like, "I won't eat any junk food this year", rephrase it by saying, "I choose to eat 1 serving of fruit or vegetables at each meal." By focusing on what you "get" to eat, rather than deprivation, we build healthy habits without much thought or effort.

Tomorrow, we will continue this discussion, and we will be specifically thinking about how to personalize our goals.

Have a sunny day!  

 

 

Goal setting

The start of a new year, month, week, and even day is a time to pause and reflect, then set some intentions and goals for the future. "Don't look back, you're not going that way" is a good idea, and also "...but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal..." (Philippians 3:13-14) I was surprised, in looking back at some goals that I had written down for last week, how little I had accomplished, nor had I checked much off my to-do-list. I had  become distracted and side-tracked. What in the world is my problem?

In listening to a "minimalistic lifestyle" webinar today, I was able to get the answer that question. I am a perfectionist! I am overwhelmed with clutter, life, distractions, etc. and I have no idea where to start, so I leave every project I start unfinished. I am more frustrated than ever because I feel that if I do not accomplish "X, Y, and Z", I have failed, and if I don't accomplish all of them perfectly, I have just fulfilled my "I am a failure" self-prophecy! 

So now that I know what my problem is, how do I "reach forward' and "press toward the goal"? WHAT steps do I need to take to accomplish some goals, and what mindset do I need to adjust? HOW do I maximize my time towards a decluttered home, that is a better reflection of WHO I am? WHERE do I start? WHEN will I know that I am "done"? 

These are scary questions, but I am hoping that by taking some baby steps forward, one at a time, I will be able to accomplish big things in 2018! Remember that "small hinges swing big doors"!

For the next four days, I will be sharing with you all some practical tips on goal setting and decluttering. Stay tuned, leave me comments regarding your goals for this year, and feel free to share this with your friends!

Have a blessed day!

New Year 2018

Today I changed the name of my Facebook page, Hickory Hill Haven to Be In Health in order to better reflect my direction in a coaching practice! It has been almost 1 year since I became a certified health coach.  I  actually received my certification on my 59th birthday, however spending time with and caring for my Mom, who was in later stages of Parkinson's disease,  took priority over coaching. Mom made her heavenly homeward journey on Oct. 25, and I have since been taking some time off to grieve, practice self care, and get refocused.

At the start of a new year it is a good practice to reflect on the past, make some decisions, and come up with a plan to move forward in the days ahead. Many people make "resolutions", but often don't stick with their plans, usually because they didn't make SMART goals, i.e. "specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound".This is where having a health coach comes in handy, someone who can help you clarify the direction in which you would like to go, offer suggestions, and then keep you accountable.

I  chose the name Be In Health from the Bible verse 3 John 2, "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers." This new name describes my desire to help others as a "Body/Mind/Spirit Advocate". Each of our lives are shaped by our personal life experiences, and as we navigate through life, having mentors who understand our difficulties, hurts, and problems is reassuring, when we feel uncertain, alone, and afraid. 

I am also in the process of becoming a certified Tai Chi instructor, teaching adult dance fitness classes, and continuing to study various aspects of coaching the "Big 5", faith, family/relationships, health, career/calling, finances. Remember, how you do one is how you do the others!

​The choices we make, the opportunities we take,... I heard yesterday that "fear is temporary, but regrets are forever." What are you waiting for? Why not make 2018 one of the healthiest, happiest years of your life? You cannot change what happens TO you, but you can change YOUR ATTI-TUDE! 

​Blessings!

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Mindfulness

"So teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom." Psalm 90:2

"Be Mindful! Be Present! Do Something Here That Has Eternal Value!"

These are my goals for 2019! What type of goals, resolutions-solutions do you have for this year? I would love to connect with some more people and work with you! I would especially like to connect with other "empty-nesters" who are also struggling with "purpose" and "direction" in our lives. What do we DO now that we are "grown-ups"?? Send me an email and let me know how we can be an encouragement and blessing to each other! Blessings! 

See Tai Chi page for new content and recent study published on the Effectiveness of Tai chi in fall prevention! 

Tai Chi Classes

Do you know what is the total cost for treatment of "falls" per year? $50,000,000,000.00/year! (https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-03-older-adult-falls-substantial-medical.html)

That is 50 billion in  hospital costs, doctor's bills, therapy, rehab, etc. all related to injury as a result of a fall. Also did you know that for a person 65 years old and older, 20% of people with a hip fracture, die within a year? There is no way to measure the costs as older adults lose their independence, experience a significant disability, and therefore withdraw from society. 

Did you know that practicing Tai chi on a regular basis can help you improve your balance and therefore reduces your risk of suffering an injury due to a fall? The results of a study by Li and colleagues (2004) demonstrates the effectiveness in practicing Tai chi in fall prevention for older adults.

"The Tai Chi group preformed significantly better than the stretching group on the three functional balance assessments (dynamic gait index, the Berg balance scale, and a functional reach test). There was no change in the baseline measurements for the stretching in any of the functional balance assessments. In the 6-month follow-up, where no formalize exercise was offered, the Tai Chi group showed much slower deterioration in functional balance measures as compared to the stretching group. In addition, during the 6-month post-exercise period, there were 28 recorded falls in the Tai Chi Group and 74 reported with the stretching group."

​Interested in learning how to practice Tai chi? There are opportunities for learning the Yang 24 Form at Hidden Lake Gardens, in Tecumseh, Michigan or at Dance Center in Adrian, Michigan. Contact me for more information!  

Walking

Walking is a great way to start if you're new to exercise or need to keep your activity low-impact. It doesn't require special equipment or a gym membership, and the list of benefits is long: In addition to building strong muscles (or keeping your muscle mass from shrinking) and increasing your bone density, it may help reduce your risk of developing type 2 diabetes, improve your total cholesterol level, lower your blood pressure and help you loose weight (especially around your mid-section). To get the most from your walks, keep your pace brisk and aim for 30 minutes about five days per week. Or track the number of steps you take each day. Buy a pedometer to find out how many steps you average in a day. Thirty minutes of brisk walking should result in about 10,000 steps, which, according to Shape Up America! Should be our daily goal for successful weight management [source: Navratilova, Shape Up America!]]

Completion

I chose the word "completion" to be my mantra, my focus for 2018. As a perfectionist I tend to start 10 projects at once, get side tracked along the way, and never get back to finishing any of them. I also chose a Scripture verse to help me stay on track with my goals, Romans 12:11, "Not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord." I will  be using a timer in 30 minute intervals, for my decluttering and completion projects to help me stay focused. I figure that is a realistic time in which I should be able to handle cleaning out/decluttering 1 thing/drawer/shelf/box/etc. at a time. No need to overwhelm myself and quit that project again!

The following is my schedule for each day in order of priority.

  1. Bible study, devotional reading, prayer
  2. Physical exercise including daily yoga and Tai Chi practices, plus one other activity, dancing, walking, etc
  3. Follow daily cleaning schedule
  4. Decluttering
  5. Project completion

Of course this is just the bare bones, since I didn't list all of my daily chores, feeding the dogs, meal prep, etc. I really don't want to bore you with the details! Remember the quote about social media and knowing everyone's status/business?! 

So now that we have chatted this week about goals ​and given you a little insight into who I am and what I will be doing this year, please feel free to leave a comment and share your goals and plans. I would love to hear from you. Accountability is often helpful in accomplishing what we start. Knowing that we wrote it down, posted our list where we are reminded every day of our priorities, and then letting others know our progress keeps us motivated. Let's be diligent this year to be an encouragement to each other to become the best version of who God created us to become. Challenge ourselves to be stretched, face our fears, and live with no regrets! 

Have a blessed weekend! 

 

 

 

 

Fantasy vs. Real Life

So now that you are motivated to start setting some goals for your life, you look around and see everyone else's "perfect" life, and you quit before you even get started taking action! I understand how you feel! Remember yesterday that I admitted I am a perfectionist? Well sometimes the problem with being a perfectionist and trying to set some goals is that I procrastinate! Then when I start comparing, I begin despairing! Do you know what social media is? "It is where everyone knows your status, but it is none of their business!" That is not an original idea! I heard that in a Hallmark movie! LOL

Let's shift our thought processes. Let's build slowly so that we can gain some momentum. Let's remember that our thoughts define who we are and who we become. "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." (Proverbs 23:7) Let's personalize what we want our lives to be and stop comparing to others. For example, the woman I mentioned in a previous blog, who was doing a webinar on minimalism, showed some pictures of her house. Sure there was no clutter, nothing on the counters, bare walls, but that is not what I want my house to look like when I am done decluttering. We have to define who we are as a person first, then decide where we want to go, who we want to be, and then figure out the steps we need to get us there.

For me, I need to build some more routines into my daily schedule. I have a cleaning schedule, and I would like to stick to it this year! I also will be continuing to declutter my home. No, not like the minimalistic lady, but at the very least I would like to get rid of the "stuff" that has accumulated over the past 5-10 years since all of our children have moved out! I remember that I do not want to portray a "fantasy" life, but I want to embrace the lifestyle that fits me.

Let me know what you think and what some of your goals are for 2018. Tomorrow I will share a few of mine! 

 

 

The Big 5

So where do we start with goals setting? Which areas of my life need the most help and improvement? As I shared yesterday, I am so overwhelmed at times, that I just don't know where or even how to start. Baby steps! Remember? Okay, so let's focus on the "Big 5" i.e. Faith, Family/relationships, Health, Career/calling, and Finances. I was trying to start each word with the letter "F", but I am not that cleaver! I think we can safely say that these five categories comprise most of our lives.

What if we start out by setting just one or two goals for each of these areas? Doing the math that would be 5-10 goals for the year. Remember, we are trying to not be overwhelmed, so we don't want to set the bar too high. Also try to categorize each goal in terms of being SMART, specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. For example under the category "Health", for me to write down "I am going to run in the New York City marathon this August" would be stretching my realistic and achievable criteria. It is certainly a specific, measurable, and time-bound goal, but just not something I plan on doing this year! 

Think about formulating "compelling" goals. This would be the "WHY" behind the goal. Does completing X goal really matter in my life? In the life of others within my circle of responsibility/influence?  Will achieving it make a difference in my happiness, peace of mind, calmness of spirit? For example, is the goal intellectually stimulating or physically challenging? Is it worth even writing it down? Think about stretching outside of what your are comfortable with, or what your "normal" is like.

Make sure to write your goals down and then assign a deadline. This will create a sense of urgency and help you balance your priorities. Turn negatives into positives. Instead of saying something like, "I won't eat any junk food this year", rephrase it by saying, "I choose to eat 1 serving of fruit or vegetables at each meal." By focusing on what you "get" to eat, rather than deprivation, we build healthy habits without much thought or effort.

Tomorrow, we will continue this discussion, and we will be specifically thinking about how to personalize our goals.

Have a sunny day!  

 

 

Goal setting

The start of a new year, month, week, and even day is a time to pause and reflect, then set some intentions and goals for the future. "Don't look back, you're not going that way" is a good idea, and also "...but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal..." (Philippians 3:13-14) I was surprised, in looking back at some goals that I had written down for last week, how little I had accomplished, nor had I checked much off my to-do-list. I had  become distracted and side-tracked. What in the world is my problem?

In listening to a "minimalistic lifestyle" webinar today, I was able to get the answer that question. I am a perfectionist! I am overwhelmed with clutter, life, distractions, etc. and I have no idea where to start, so I leave every project I start unfinished. I am more frustrated than ever because I feel that if I do not accomplish "X, Y, and Z", I have failed, and if I don't accomplish all of them perfectly, I have just fulfilled my "I am a failure" self-prophecy! 

So now that I know what my problem is, how do I "reach forward' and "press toward the goal"? WHAT steps do I need to take to accomplish some goals, and what mindset do I need to adjust? HOW do I maximize my time towards a decluttered home, that is a better reflection of WHO I am? WHERE do I start? WHEN will I know that I am "done"? 

These are scary questions, but I am hoping that by taking some baby steps forward, one at a time, I will be able to accomplish big things in 2018! Remember that "small hinges swing big doors"!

For the next four days, I will be sharing with you all some practical tips on goal setting and decluttering. Stay tuned, leave me comments regarding your goals for this year, and feel free to share this with your friends!

Have a blessed day!

New Year 2018

Today I changed the name of my Facebook page, Hickory Hill Haven to Be In Health in order to better reflect my direction in a coaching practice! It has been almost 1 year since I became a certified health coach.  I  actually received my certification on my 59th birthday, however spending time with and caring for my Mom, who was in later stages of Parkinson's disease,  took priority over coaching. Mom made her heavenly homeward journey on Oct. 25, and I have since been taking some time off to grieve, practice self care, and get refocused.

At the start of a new year it is a good practice to reflect on the past, make some decisions, and come up with a plan to move forward in the days ahead. Many people make "resolutions", but often don't stick with their plans, usually because they didn't make SMART goals, i.e. "specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound".This is where having a health coach comes in handy, someone who can help you clarify the direction in which you would like to go, offer suggestions, and then keep you accountable.

I  chose the name Be In Health from the Bible verse 3 John 2, "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers." This new name describes my desire to help others as a "Body/Mind/Spirit Advocate". Each of our lives are shaped by our personal life experiences, and as we navigate through life, having mentors who understand our difficulties, hurts, and problems is reassuring, when we feel uncertain, alone, and afraid. 

I am also in the process of becoming a certified Tai Chi instructor, teaching adult dance fitness classes, and continuing to study various aspects of coaching the "Big 5", faith, family/relationships, health, career/calling, finances. Remember, how you do one is how you do the others!

​The choices we make, the opportunities we take,... I heard yesterday that "fear is temporary, but regrets are forever." What are you waiting for? Why not make 2018 one of the healthiest, happiest years of your life? You cannot change what happens TO you, but you can change YOUR ATTI-TUDE! 

​Blessings!

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